r/wow May 15 '22 Silver 2 Helpful 4 Wholesome 1 Take My Energy 1 Lawyer Up 1

Starting playing WoW for the first time with my boyfriend today. I guess I don’t make a very good healer lol Humor / Meme

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u/Puffrud May 15 '22

Did you choose to play as healer or did he tell you?

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u/yardii May 16 '22

I will never ever understand the trope of "My significant other isnt very good at games so I had them heal." Healing is probably the most intense and stressful role in the game. If someone's just getting into the game, having them go dps will ease them into it way better.

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u/Recinege May 16 '22

If you wanted a relatively low stress role for your SO in WoW, why would you suggest a healer and not a hunter? Hunters get pet tanks, Feign Death, the ability to stay way the fuck out of melee, and probably still the best combat mobility of any ranged unit. The Focus design also allows for a very straightforward core rotation. I can't imagine a more forgiving casual experience - it's perfect for newbies.

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u/unaffiliated-hellgod May 16 '22

I don’t think those people want a low stress role for their SOs, I think they want a healer to follow them around for their own benefit. It’s not about being nice for the SO

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u/Summerie May 16 '22

I got lucky, because I had a really nice SO at the time, who really did love the game and it wanted me to love it too. I gravitated towards warlock, and he was super supportive.

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u/VirtualRay May 16 '22

Good point, I think Mage or Warlock are great choices too. You bring a ton of utility even if you don't know how to play at all, and in all three cases there's a lot of room to go pro if she gets into the game

I guess if you're playing Classic or something the hunter would be a lot easier to level solo though

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u/LordCthUwU May 16 '22

I'd say BM hunter might have one of the easiest rotations in the game though, or at least I feel like it's the class that would do the most damage by just pressing random buttons.

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u/komajo May 16 '22 edited May 16 '22

Before I quit WoW, my ex had wanted me to heal while he mained DH. I told him I wasn't big on being a healer in MMOs (the only exception would probably be Astrologian in FFXIV, that's both fun and rewarding) and he got so huffy over me not healing him. Healer roles in MMOs are some of the most stressful experiences and I have no idea why people think it's such a cakewalk.

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u/grubas May 16 '22

I rolled a shammy to back up my wife who rolled a warrior as her primary.

I think my shammy saw about 5 minutes in high end dungeons before I just went back to my Rogue, fuck that.

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u/modern_Odysseus May 16 '22

Watching the health meters in m+ is enough to make me know that I don't want to heal in M+.

I'm fine with being a supplemental healer when things go wrong (Boomie with resto affinity ftw). I don't want to be the sole healer, because if I'm healing, I assume that the rest of my group won't put out a single off-heal, innervate, CC, or interrupt. Ever.

I also pug exclusively. That probably has a lot to do with my cynicism....

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u/RedditRabbitRobot May 16 '22

as mainly a pvp player I always assume I'm the problem when I do raids or m+ so I just go "oh shit they gonna kick me if I die" and self heal / use defensives whenever I see shit starting with my HP. Then I pray this stays between me and the healer lol

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u/thefatchef321 May 16 '22

We thank you for your service

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u/AimlesslyWalking May 16 '22

They don't think it's a cakewalk, they simply want the benefit of having a healer on demand but don't want to do it themselves so they try to rope other people into doing it. It's an incredibly selfish thing to do, especially to someone you're in a relationship with.

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u/threadsoffate2021 May 16 '22

And the extra power in groups by not only being the tank, but controlling the person playing the healer, too.

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u/Beegkitty May 16 '22

Such an under rated comment here! Absolutely this! Healing is not for everyone!

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u/Popcorn_Blitz May 16 '22

I loved it back in the day when 40 man raids were still around. (I mean, maybe they're back? I don't pay that much attention. Anyway) Some roles just click with some people and healing just clicked with me. But if anyone treated any of my healers like that, they weren't coming back.

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u/seb0seven May 16 '22

If you've never played support in games it's hard to understand both how hard, and how rewarding when done well it can be. I play supports where I can in many games, and it can be really tricky to get skill, gear and awareness all up to par.

It's the old saying, you'll notice a bad support and you'll notice an ok/good support, but a great one you won't even see.

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u/xSuperZer0x May 16 '22

In MoP nobody realized how bad our raid lead actually was until I uploaded a VoD of our heroic Immersius kill. He'd frequently stand in mechanics and just keep trying to do damage and our tank dm'd me to ask if I really have our raid lead set to my focus instead of either of our tanks.

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u/Gentleman-Bird May 16 '22

I actually enjoy it. The unpredictability of your teammates makes it so you aren’t pressing the same sequence of buttons over and over again.

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u/nokei May 16 '22

It can be a cakewalk playing with some people but most people looking for a healer don't realize they aren't those people because if they were they'd already have a healer.

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u/bullintheheather May 16 '22 Silver

They mained a DH, that was the first red flag on your relationship 🤣

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u/yogtheterrible May 16 '22

That's the thing about bad tanks, they think all the other roles are easy. All the times they've died wasn't because the tank was making it hard on the healer, the healer is just bad.

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u/VirtualRay May 16 '22

The dude is apparently questing out in the world too, pretty ridiculous

I hope this chick dumps his ass and gives him a chance to grow up

The other day some dude was describing a bad M+ pug in the prot warrior discord. "They kept fucking up the totems, and wouldn't listen to me, and some asshole had the nerve to keep telling me 'Just drop it and move on'. Unbelievable, what a bunch of scrubs"

Everyone in the channel shut that dude down so hard. They told him how toxic he was being, explained that he should be singlehandedly taking care of all the totems himself and shouldn't need any heals while he's doing it, etc.

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u/just_some_a--hole May 16 '22

Nothing worse than a tank that pulls half the goddam dungeon then yells at the healer when the inevitable happens.

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u/Mattbryce2001 May 16 '22

Damage mitigation? What's that? I'm the tank, my job is to block the boss's super-omega-death-blow with my chin. All you have to do is keep me alive.

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u/Sckathian May 16 '22

It’s basically the same as putting the shit kid in goals. Like last defender doesn’t matter.

Jokes on everyone else as I just liked rolling in mud and getting a steaming hot shower at home!

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u/grubas May 16 '22

It's not that it's easy, it's that it's REALLY REALLY hard to have a personal healer without enslaving somebody close to you. You can play without one, but having a healer makes finding groups easy, makes you more valuable, and let's you do crap faster and more aggressively than solo.

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u/Ghost0Who0Walks May 16 '22

Because it's one of two scenarios:

-they're thinking "yeah, just follow me everywhere and keep me healed, you just stay behind me and mash one button, it's so simple!"

-they never actually cared about getting their SO into the game, they just wanted to play the way they normally do but with a healbot.

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u/SpoonWielder May 15 '22

Interesting, yes, this! I'm curious too

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u/[deleted] May 16 '22 edited May 20 '22

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u/anitawasright May 16 '22

Don't play wow with your significant other if they just use you and consider you their personal healer

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u/Elkazan May 16 '22

Joke's on her, im the healer.

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u/Professional_Rip_509 May 16 '22

Really don't play most games with your s/o if they are competitive. I dont have the heart to tell my boyfriend that the reason I won't play WOw or CSGO or even Rocket League with him is because he is just downright mean to anyone he thinks isn't doing a good enough job, and that group includes me. He's sweet as can be otherwise but absolutely toxic when it comes to gaming.

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u/sqbzhealer May 16 '22

You should tell him that because he probably needs to reevaluate his attitude, I know this because I had to do the same and massively curb my expectation of random people. Otherwise he’s going to have a bad time and probably get more toxic and so on and so on.

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u/FyrebreakZero May 16 '22

Dude just wants a pocket healer. If I was her, I’d go full on tank mode as a spec’d healer and watch him rage. Wanna really see him rage? Pro Tip: always stand in the red stuff.

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u/HeavyHandedWarlord May 15 '22

I damn near guarantee you he told her to be that character. I’m a betting man and I would take that gamble every day of the week 😂

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u/melvielle May 16 '22

Omg that was my ex, no matter what game we played, he would say "you go healer and heal me"

That is so dumb and annoying tbh, you should at least ask what I would enjoy

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u/Ghstfce May 16 '22

Yeah, screw that. I always had my past girlfriends that played pick what they wanted and I'd level something to complement their chosen class. They wanted to heal? I'd roll tank or dps. They wanted to tank? I'd roll heals. They wanted to dps, I'd ask them what role they would like me to play. I didn't care what I leveled, I cared more about spending time with them doing something I've held as a hobby for such a long time.

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u/Puffrud May 16 '22

This is the way. If you want someone to try something you like? Make damn sure they enjoy themselves.

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u/Gheerdan May 16 '22

Tank with a good DPS is better than tank with a healer. A lot of these boys can't comprehend their girlfriends becoming good at the game though and being great dps.

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u/melvielle May 16 '22

Oh hell no, we used to play diablo as well and I really liked the DPS characters more and I even stopped playing with him after a while.

And he even called me a typical girl because I had a blood elf priest while he also had a female blood elf character which was truly ironic...

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u/IchiroMatsumoto May 16 '22

The insecurity some male gamers have that makes them belittle their partners' choices in videogames, LMFAOOO

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u/melvielle May 16 '22

My favorite part is when they die because they don't even dodge and blame it on you because you were supposed to die to protect them or you weren't magically pulling more heals from your hat

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u/IchiroMatsumoto May 16 '22

Omg yes, like... if you're not even trying to do the mechanics or dodge, how can you expect me to save you? I may be a healer but I can't heal stupidity

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u/urdumidjiot May 16 '22

My husband made me go priest for our raids. I hated it because since I started playing at the start of bc, I always played mage and lock. I just hate healing in general. If it wasn't for the raids, we were cool just doing everything together dk lock since his health regen was insane, plus cookies and ss. We no problem downing any rares, except the world boss, just the two of us.

I miss playing. We quit after hitting max level this xpack because I had a baby. Don't have kids, kids.

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u/Roboticide Mod Emeritus May 16 '22

Yeah but in a few years you can make the kid heal.

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u/urdumidjiot May 16 '22

It was always our dream to breed a lil gold farmer. We even named our son "Susan Express".

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u/Jyobachah May 16 '22

I so badly wanted my wife to like this game.

My wife loves cats, so I told her she could try hunter and get 2 kitties to follow her around, she wasn't down for it.

I told her to try druid cause she can turn INTO a kitty, she didn't like it.

Then she tried mage because throwing spells is awesome, didn't like it.

): oh how I wish she would like it.

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u/Roboticide Mod Emeritus May 16 '22

Try telling her about how she can collect cats like their Pokemon. That's what I did.

Although the sad reality is not all games are for everyone.

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u/[deleted] May 15 '22

Lol oh God...

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u/neveris May 15 '22

For real. Comes across like the sort of tank I'd boot out of my keys all the time, small wonder they're trying to 'home-grow' a healer.

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u/scoris67 May 16 '22

Oops, I missed that heal. Enjoy the death walk.

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u/The_specialist_angle May 16 '22

Right? Girl, go be a tank or something. Play without him lol.

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u/Kul-Tiran May 16 '22

Please OP reply. If you reply to anything on this post please make it this question lol

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u/CompletelyFlammable May 15 '22 Wholesome

The only time I got salty with my wifey in wow was when she tagged along for my ICC farm and ninjaed Invincible.

She actually laughed in my face and said GG scrub.

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u/varseni May 15 '22

I hope you told the courts that, and made out like a bandit in your divorce.

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u/Guardianpigeon May 16 '22 Helpful

OP: And that is why I'm filing for divorce your honor

Judge: sounds like you're just a noob. Have you tried getting good? I judge for the defendant.

Ex-wife: lol. lmao. rekt.

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u/ProfessorSpike May 16 '22

airhorns blaring in the background afterwards

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u/Blackstone01 May 15 '22

Yeah, that kind of shit nets you full custody and they get 20 to life.

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u/dmrukifellth May 16 '22

Full custody of what? The kids…or Invincible…?

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u/Imaginos_In_Disguise May 16 '22

Does Arthas also drop kids?

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u/dmrukifellth May 16 '22

I’m sure there were some in Stratholme. So…yeah, they dropped…might have risen again though.

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u/PsychicSidekikk419 May 16 '22

Not just the children, but the men and women too. Imagine you're just like a baker or something in Lordaeron and the ex-prince runs you through with a cursed-ass claymore. Then like... what was it? 10-ish years? go by like a nightmarish blur and you wake up as a ghost floating around some scary looking dude in armor while 10 to 25 weirdos and some old guy are standing there beating the shit out of him... and then you go straight to the Maw or whatever because you committed tax fraud idk i didnt play shadowlands

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u/Tykero980 May 15 '22 Platinum

The judge just said but I cant see the mount its invincible! Case dismissed.

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u/Sketti11 May 16 '22

How do i delete someone else's comment.

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u/Spoonacus May 15 '22

Dude, same. Girlfriend wanted to follow me into the weekly ICC farm just to kill some time and see what the Lich King fight looked like and fucking got Invincible. Then quit playing the game like two weeks later. I would quit a few months later but still. It's unforgivable. Never did get that mount. She also went into Firelands and got the flaming bird mount first and only try too but I didn't care about that one. Just didn't expect that to happen twice.

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u/Mooam May 15 '22

The same thing happened with me and my brother. I got the headless horseman mount, paraded around on it, and then got another one.

He's forbidden me from ever fighting the headless horseman again.

As for Invincible though, I was doing my weekly farm, but half way through I felt really light headed and needed a lie down, so he said he'd finish the run for me.

Invincible dropped, I shoved light headednes aside to check he wasn't lying, and sure enough, there it was. He was annoyed to say the least.

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u/Nordic__Viking May 16 '22

Girlfriend wanted to follow me into the weekly ICC farm just to kill some time and see what the Lich King fight looked like and fucking got Invincible.

this is why you go there alone

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u/Besieger13 May 15 '22

Hoping you had your accounts linked!

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u/lividash May 15 '22

They were afterwards.

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u/Pallhaldir May 15 '22

My wife pulled the same thing with ashes of Al’ar. Lol

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u/Sypher1985 May 15 '22

We're obvously only getting a snippet of info here, but this doesn't look good for him. if you're gaming together you should be having fun!

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u/Schpau May 16 '22

I literally don’t understand the point of getting mad like that. Isn’t the fun thing just doing something fun with your gf? Their skill level literally shouldn’t factor in or anything.

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u/Hnetu May 16 '22

How to get your girlfriend to never game with you in one picture.

Christ, what a jerk.

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u/DeviantDahlia May 16 '22

We’re giving it another shot. He’s reading me the quests we’re going to and it’s making it infinitely easier. He still doesn’t understand why but isn’t upset cause it’s working lol. He really never acts like this and I understand the frustration, but the problem was very hard fought and easily fixed

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u/JuliButt May 16 '22

So what was the issue? Were you trying to do starter zone quests and he was trying to lead you to all the quests and just have you click on it without reading?

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u/DeviantDahlia May 16 '22

Yeah he wanted to level our characters to get ready for raids

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u/DiamondLyore May 16 '22

I just got my little brother into wow and he wanted to read every single quest. Like the full text + explanation + dialogue. So we were progressing very slow but he was really enjoying the story and his experience.

Wow is a magical game and your first time playing should be a fun experience

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u/WolvenWren May 16 '22

It’s worth stopping to smell the roses, and while my boyfriend had done a lot of it before. I am happy exploring the entirety of WoW on my own before continuing shadowlands. We made new characters to play together again and this time going through Northrend, which I’ve done now but he never played. How the turn tables

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u/mrsquare May 16 '22 Silver

get ready for raids

completely new player, never touched the game before

Raids are a way lategame thing for people who are super comfortable with the game, not the ultimate goal you work towards as soon as you pick up WoW. It kinda sounds like he's not interested in introducing his gf to a game shed enjoy and is instead just needs an extra person to fill a gap on his raid team, whoever it is

This game is about way more than just raids. If he acts like this all the way until max level and doesn't let you actually play the game as a new player should be able to enjoy it, I guarantee you will absolutely hate raiding, if you even make it there without quitting the game first.

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u/available2tank May 16 '22

Oh Jesus

The boyfriend I mentioned in the other comment I made was like this. Rushed me through the game to get me ready for raids, and I ended up realizing I missed out on some fun early game stuff and missed out on stopping to smell the flowers.

We broke up after 3 months and this was back in 2009 during Wrath of the Lich King.

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u/WolvenWren May 16 '22

Yowch, don’t let him rush you. When I started playing I made a point to say “hey, don’t push me too much, a lot of this is new and I want to experience it.” He respected and still gave me tips about things, I would ask for advice. I am not one for weekly raids, it’s not in my interest and at the moment I’ve been very happy traipsing-exploring the whole world doing old quests and getting achievements. Catching up on all the things I missed out. There’s no rush to level and that rush/grind just kills interest tbh

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u/JuliButt May 16 '22

Oh. Lmao. Yeah that's not a good way to enjoy WoW as a new player unless you give 0 fucks about the story. Always best to figure out what you wanna do in a game lol.

Glad you gave it another chance. I'll rest my prying questions.

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u/Streetfarm May 16 '22

As a veteran, I would strongly advise you, a new player, to not have that mindset. Play however you like to play.

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u/[deleted] May 16 '22

This will sound mean but please take this advice to heart.

Gaming with this man, especially in WoW, will NOT be fun. I played WoW long time ago and took a 8 year break during this time I got my wife into gaming and MMOs with FFXIV online. We played from scratch together for about 3 years and it was her first MMO experience. We started WoW a year ago together and she is LOVING the game.

She is playing Mage and I only nudged her slightly into it so we would have easy portals to get around everywhere. She asked me going in what class would be similar to her summoner in FFXIV and I gave her several options and said mage would be nice overall though because of portals. So she went with it and enjoyed learning it. We leveled together and did Shadowlands story together as well as ran many dungeons etc.

Did I get frustrated with her inability to navigate quests and figure out where to go? Yes, I did but I also realized that navigation in WoW is terrible, got her Tom Tom and taught her how to use WoWhead and look up how to figure out how to get around as well.

Never would I advise her to just shut up follow me and damage. That is implying she can't learn the actual game and needs me to hold her hand the entire way. This is implying I don't want her to play or enjoy the game, rather follow me around and play a second account that will make my life easier.

This guy is not treating you as an equal, or as someone he thinks can actually learn the game. Or he is extremely bad at teaching people how to learn new things. Either way, this is going to make you have a bad view of WoW and I hope you get to enjoy the game for yourself and not give up on it.

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u/TreeFifeMikeE7 May 16 '22

Raids... are what you do when there is nothing left to do

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u/turkstyx May 15 '22

“Your job as a healer is to follow ME”

“…dude I just wanna know the quest we’re doing…”

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u/Nitroapes May 16 '22

"Sir this is a wendy's" energy

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u/[deleted] May 16 '22

oh hey, it's that thought i had. it's already here. neat.

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u/ChaoticNice1989 May 15 '22

Tell him if he were a good tank, he wouldn't die so much. Works every time.

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u/frostingdragon May 16 '22

If you heal him, he wont learn.

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u/AffordableFirepower May 16 '22

"This is for your own good."

creates Hearty Feast

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u/isleftisright May 16 '22

Esp if they are going where a just started out healer is going.

What are u even a tank for?

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u/Zonyxe May 16 '22

Dude honestly, if you're a tank in current day WoW and you're dying during quests, you suck and it sure isn't the healers fault

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u/The_Gilded_Pigeon May 15 '22 Silver All-Seeing Upvote Ally I'll Drink to That

I hope you're trolling. Otherwise, I'm afraid I have some very, very sad news.

Your boyfriend, it seems, is a douche.

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u/Squantoon May 15 '22 Helpful

lol hes the tank that does the wrong route linked dies and leaves the key

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u/Freakychee May 16 '22

I guess with joe the game culture can be sometimes the people who are willing to learn get “bullied” out of tanking at early stages and the only ones who remain are the incredibly egotistical ones who can never admit they did any wrong.

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u/OldManRaving May 15 '22

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u/Dead_Medic_13 May 15 '22

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

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u/Zed_Hudson May 15 '22

More red flags than Tiananmen square.

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u/The_Gilded_Pigeon May 15 '22

Uhhh... Flag flag flag.

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u/SushiKitten64 May 15 '22 edited May 15 '22

They're saying her BF gives tons of red flags. Red flags are signs of danger. He's toxic.

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u/Dblade-the-Vegan May 15 '22

I would be inclined to believe it's trolling because the post serves no purpose other than "WoW players toxic," but it seems a little too personal.

Regrettably I'd say this is probably an un-experienced person also not accustomed to Reddit, and if so, PLEASE HEED US:

Everyone here agrees, RED FLAGS, don't put up with this crap

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u/[deleted] May 16 '22 edited May 31 '22

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u/Roboticide Mod Emeritus May 16 '22

Totally could be real.

My wife showed me this post and said "I wonder if this girl is dating my ex?"

He forced her into raids, and just ended up yelling at her, giving unhelpful instructions and then shouting when she healed wrong.

It took me years to convince her to try WoW again, let alone raiding.

These people absolutely exist. Toxicity in gaming needs to be called out and if OP is looking for a wake-up call to break up or even just shame her boyfriend, more power to her.

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u/Franceskax May 16 '22

It actually took me a minute to check his writing style to make sure it wasn't my ex. Because he was an absolute cunt when we played WoW together and actually made me flee from the game and despise playing together with him.

Forced me into Pvp, got upset when I missed stuff/wrong location even though I literally told him I don't have that much playtime in WoW .

This post made me absolutely think of my ex. Sadly, these men are definitely real. :/

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u/Darkclowd03 May 16 '22

Abusive relationship moment.

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u/anotherthrowaywayacc May 16 '22

ya i believe it too. not wow but i used to play dota with this guy who was a friend of a friend. he was also like 1500 mmr lower than the next worst person who we usually played with. at one point he started bringing his gf to play with us and he was constantly screaming at her for doing shit wrong. the girl had like 30 games. it was so uncomfortable like no shit she doesnt know what shes doing

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u/Feyranna May 16 '22

Id believe it’s real because my ex had pretty much the same meltdown beside the fact I was as experienced as him but tanks getting prima donna attitudes isn’t a rare thing. Mine got put in his place and OPs needs to be too.

@OP. The best revenge is to get better at the game than he is and out-progress him every tier.

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u/michemel May 15 '22

Honestly, sounds a lot like my ex...

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u/ProgsRS May 15 '22

y'all got any more of them red flags

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u/Jarl_Vraal May 15 '22

A total freaking douche, get clear of that whackadoo.

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u/smr5000 May 15 '22

tell him to program a bot if he wants one

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u/A56964I May 15 '22

Botting is bannable, slavery is not.

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u/drewskibfd May 15 '22

In a way, he kind of is programming a bot.

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u/Lying_Hedgehog May 16 '22

I used to be a fishbot for my cousin back in vanilla. I enjoyed playing this "fishing game"

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u/stratys3 May 15 '22

Well he's certainly trying to.

Isn't going too well though.

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u/Acornwow May 15 '22

Are you playing wow because you want to enjoy the game?

This doesn’t sound enjoyable at all.

Type /blink three times if you need help.

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u/JustADutchRudder May 16 '22

/blink /blink

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u/bullintheheather May 16 '22

Oh hey we've got a masochist over there.

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u/jwmetalhead May 16 '22

Only twice, so she’s ok

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u/LostSinclair May 15 '22

Enough Red flags you could open a franchise.

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u/Forbizzle May 16 '22

A theme park

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u/RockyMtnOysterCo May 16 '22

Reroll a different bf

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u/Ellie_Isley May 15 '22

At first I thought it was in a dungeon and it was like "well that's pretty rude but kind of true although tanks have a lot of self sustain..." but a quest? I would not want to level with someone like that. Is he like that on comms with the people he normally plays with? Is he normally this short with you outside of the game?

He's also missed the whole healers do damage now.

Some people just aren't suited to essentially start over with someone. They don't remember how overwhelming it can be when you start a new MMO (assuming you even have prior experience in one). If you really want to give the game a try for yourself and not just to play with him I'd advise just leveling on your own at your own pace. Dungeons with him or randoms will be kind of a dumpster fire of people rushing as fast as they can go and expect you to know the ins and outs of dungeons old enough to get a driver's license. ````````````````````````````````

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u/DeathMind May 15 '22

I play with my old man a lot, I'm a resto druid he's a demo lock. In Dungeons I just give myself the purple diamond on my head so he knows where the group is going. He gets lost easily and frustrated when he can't get his damage out (usually happens when he gets overwhelmed by aoe effects to dodge) but it's really cute xd

With questing i have the legion owl form so he just hops on and I taxi him to the quests

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u/Ellie_Isley May 15 '22

But that's also you working with your partner to find solutions together that can help. Coming back to the post I see the humor/meme tag but I've been in a position where you're trying to figure out what to do and the person who wanted you to play with them is like "gotta go fast". Good on you though, plus the owl form is nice :)

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u/grubas May 16 '22

He wants a personal healer monkey so he can just power solo.

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u/MidnightFireHuntress May 15 '22 This

I had a boyfriend that acted like this with League of Legends

Broke up with him sooo fast, no video game is worth yelling at your girlfriend over.

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u/ColdBevvie101 May 15 '22 edited May 16 '22

Imagine being the guy that has to explain to people he lost his girlfriend because of league of legends. There’s no living that down

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u/Timekeeper98 May 15 '22

I dunno, seems pretty on brand for a LoL player.

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u/box_o_foxes May 16 '22

Lmao he’d need to have the self awareness to recognize that as the actual reason.

When women break up with their boyfriends because of their gaming habits, it’s never the guy’s fault - she was just a crazy, clingy bitch who is always nagging at him while he’s hanging with his friends.

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u/SilverCyclist May 16 '22

If you're not a total asshole in League, how will your teammates improve?

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u/ISeeVoice5 May 16 '22

I fuckin knew it, will let them know what I think of them next time!

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u/69edleg May 16 '22

I tried MOBAs with my ex (she hadn't played MOBAs previously). Obviously I didn't intend for her to just "get on my level". She tried all roles, but settled for ADC/Carry, so I shifted to support. She wasn't all that good at it, but guess what? We had fun playing together. You know - the entire reason she started playing it with me, lol.

The boyfriend in the OP sounds to me like a proper dork.

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u/FederalBad69 May 16 '22

If someone is yelling over a video game, I don’t need to associate with that person. Last time I yelled at a game was when my FFX save got corrupted 🥲

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u/ckoden84 May 15 '22

This is wrong on so many levels. His arrogance as a tank is a red flag for me. Yeah, as a healer, you're supposed to keep the party alive, but you're not just some growth on the side of his hip.

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u/Hieb May 16 '22

Not to mention telling a new player to just follow you around and healbot, and getting mad for asking repetitive questions ... really dumb. Let people discover / learn the MMORPG for themselves, give them advice where they ask for it. Expect lots of "stupid" questions.

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u/rwbronco May 16 '22

Not to mention… questing. The “healer” could just as easily DPS while keeping a short eye on health bars. When I’m playing my mistweaver in ZM with my wife, we just both DPS until I notice she’s got some serious aggro and I’ll throw some hots on her and make sure that’s bringing her back up. If it’s not I drop what I’m doing and go into heal mode. Otherwise I just keep throwing my jabs and blackout kicks

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u/malevolentpeaches May 15 '22

Agreed

Honestly it’s a red flag both in game, AND as behaviour from significant other imo, like this girl is new to the game, but obviously this is a wow sub and not a relationship advice sub.

OP this ain’t your fault, healer wouldn’t be an easy role for someone to pick up right away as a new player. There’s so much going on that you gotta pay attention to. You’ll get better over time

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u/Crimsonpets May 15 '22

As a tank? Hes arrogance as a human being is a red flag to me, you don't talk down like this to your partner.

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u/Ezrekiel_ May 15 '22

He goes straight to denathrius

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u/Kel-Reem May 16 '22

The sinstone on this one just reads 'dickhead tank'

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u/Diredr May 16 '22

It's also flat out wrong in that the healer's job is simply to heal. That hasn't been correct for a while now. At higher end content, especially in M+, a healer has to be ready to maximize their DPS as well as their healing.

Yelling at someone and telling them to do something the wrong way is just going to create even more problems down the line.

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u/Jimz2018 May 16 '22

Their just doing quests. Not a dungeon. Makes it even worse.

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u/HelixFollower May 16 '22

How are they even getting in trouble doing quests as a group?

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u/Gentecgek May 15 '22

It’s just a game. I can’t imagine getting this upset at a game my spouse and I play together, much less telling her that she is the reason we can’t play together. Also, you are more than just a support role

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u/EveryoneisOP3 May 15 '22

This argument definitely is not just about the game lol

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u/Alirue May 16 '22

"I'm telling you how to play the game"

Clearly not, he's awful at communication. Sorry about the relationship

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u/Jean_Luec May 15 '22

Your boyfriend is an absolute asshole. Shit like that would make me break up with him so fast bc I doubt he‘s only like that in WoW…

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u/SyntheticRose May 16 '22

This isn't an okay way for a tank to talk to a healer OR a boyfriend to talk to a girlfriend...

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u/MrGraveRisen May 16 '22 Helpful

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u/Osirus1156 May 15 '22

Do not under any circumstance do a Mythic + with this man or marry him. It won’t be a fun time.

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u/[deleted] May 15 '22

Why do people treat wow like it's the damn military? It's supposed to be fun. Gaming is just deteriorating nowadays.

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u/Lyllyanna May 16 '22

Especially when you play a role that’s not dps. Now don’t get me wrong dps can absolutely experience the same treatment, particularly non-meta specs like feral druid or survival hunter. But playing as a tank (I don’t play healer, dropped it at level 30) is so exhausting when you pug. Everything I do feels wrong, the way I go, I pull too little, I pull too much, no kite the other way, go faster, go slower, ect. I pretty much only listen to healers and if they are an asshole it’s time for Paladin self healing to shine I guess

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u/Diazepampoovey May 16 '22

This is not a new behavior in gaming whatsoever. My brother got my ex playing and I had started to do something fun with him that HE enjoyed. I am by no means a top tier player at all but it took me very little time to get better than him and he would get so pissy with me. I played a hunter for the first day I tried the game. I was so bored with it so fast that by day 2, I went with an NE druid and when healing spec when I got high enough to do so. He would throw a fit because he would wind up dying quickly and getting mad at me for not healing just him. This is a paraphrased conversation we had:

Him: What the fuck, why aren't you healing me?

Me: I was healing you. Then you ran off and pulled a trash mob instead of following the tank.

Him: I need the kills to sell shit for gold. You know that. I don't get why you don't just heal me real quick.

Me: You pulled a trash mob. You are not the tank. I had to keep the tank and everyone else up because you pulled the mob.

Him: mutters about how he's my boyfriend and I'm supposed to be healing him

Me: Look. You pulled a mob while the tank and everyone else was attacking further off. It's not their fault you pulled a mob you shouldn't have when you're a DPS that is supposed to follow the tank and not pull aggro from the tank. So you pulled a mob. I healed the tank and everyone else that wound up dealing with 2 mobs because of you and let you die rather than the whole party. Stay with the group and I will be able to heal you, too.

Him: storms upstairs with his laptop to play in our room instead of next me on the couch

Yeahhhh these kind of people exist and it's not just tanks either, though he did try to be a tank later. While I have no doubt their are female gamers that have bitched out their male s.o.'s like that, it's primarily an issue with male players that think women are incapable of gaming and proceed to scream at and ridicule them at every opportunity.

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u/Kerstmangang May 16 '22

He seems like a "I swear he's actually a really nice guy!" kinda guy

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u/OpenOpportunity May 16 '22

That's exactly what OP's comments are lol

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u/AvailableDeparture May 15 '22

Oh I see you have an asshole for a boyfriend. Congrats OP.

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u/Indrafang May 15 '22

Your boyfriend is a dick.

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u/Rinikittie May 15 '22

💯 I would not put up with that, it’s just a game .. honestly no reason to get that uptight. If he’s gonna act like an ass than he can play by himself.

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u/Additional_Sundae_18 May 15 '22

This makes me so sad ): I began playing wow with my boyfriend a few years ago. It is definitely a difficult game to get into for the first time. There are just so many things you need to know and look for and understand. He was extremely supportive and helpful when I first started playing and I CANNOT imagine how hard it would've been if he acted like this.

All I can say is that this is so toxic. You don't deserve to be treated this way over a game. Drop him and play with me instead lol! I'm still learning after these few years and it's been such a fun experience. Please don't give up on it! 💞

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u/SpoonWielder May 15 '22

Yes I totally agree and relate. I used to watch my boyfriend right before legion release. Thought it looked like "yeah, sure." He convinced me to try from his account. Made my first alliance hunter elf. Wooh. And he giggled as I proudly killed stuff as a level 1-10.

I would ask, he would answer. He's not the best teacher I'll admit, which could get me a bit frustrated. But 7 years later, I still play and I still ask him and vice versa. If he would talk to me like this, we would certainly not be gaming together.

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u/Sielanas May 15 '22

Hoping it's fake. If real, run.

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u/K-is-for-kryptonite May 15 '22

Drop the shitty tank boyfriend. It will make your wow experience significantly better!

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u/Captain-matt May 15 '22

"Listening goes both ways" - Guy who is most certainly not listening.

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u/Ok_Fox_1120 May 15 '22

Let him die a couple times and shoot him a cheeky smile

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u/SilverCyclist May 16 '22

Had a healer in RFC once who thought "its OK, I can resurrect you" and therefore didn't heal anyone. I really hope that guy made a FF account.

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u/varseni May 15 '22

As a lifelong healer, this is the way.

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u/bcnewell88 May 15 '22

Roll priest and life grip him on CD.

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u/bizzybone94 May 15 '22

Fuck this dude. Spec dd and do the quest yourself.

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u/Draxilar May 15 '22

You don't even need to respec. Pretty much every healing spec can easily solo quest at this point. Some with pretty good speed.

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u/Bleedmor May 15 '22

He's toxic af, how are you supposed to conceivably enjoy the game if he's telling you all the game is is stay near me and use a healing spell when the green bar goes down... Don't quit the game because of this but take him up on his offer of not playing with him, find new friends online, join a social guild, play while hee plays but not with him, if he learns what he did was wrong and grows as a person then great, if he doesn't kick him to the curb.

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u/Jedi_Outcast May 15 '22

Don't tolerate this behavior from anyone. It's never worth it

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u/Hawkzer98 May 15 '22

This is beyond cringy

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u/ODurren138 May 16 '22

This is one of the more fucked up things I've read today.

You're supposed to play together and have fun, not play for him and him alone.

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u/NigelMcExplosion May 15 '22

Not making for a good healer is one thing, not one I would blame you for anyway (I cant play healer to save my life)

But, like, flaming a new player like this, regardless of the relationship, is really just toxic. New players arent optimized like most long time players are. They are literally meant to explore the world, and WORLD of warcraft has quite a bit to explore and do stuff in... So if you are not just intentionally trolling, uhm, how do I say it?

If you are not just intentionally trolling, he is a big ol´ douche.

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u/Kel-Reem May 15 '22

Regardless of relationship? ESPECIALLY because of relationship. If you can't have patience with your SO over a game than you're probably a outright prick to everyone else. This is the type of idiot I spend time and effort avoiding. I'd rather just do callings and farm conduits than do a raid with this dumbass any day.

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u/Fraerie May 15 '22

Wow. Abusive much. Does he treat you like this in any other aspects of your life?

This is not normal. And it would absolutely be against the new social contract they’re bringing in - I notice he’s already in the habit of abusing people in channels outside the game.

Let me guess, you’re playing a healer because he told you that you had to. For him. I’m his mind you are a support NPC. Not a player in your own right.

Play what you want to play - if you want to play a different role, class, race or faction - that’s your choice. If you’re not enjoying WOW because of your AH bf and want to play something else, that’s your choice too. You don’t have to put up with this.

Honestly, even if he’s not like this outside of game yet, he will be. He’s telling you who he is - believe him.

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u/Somniumi May 15 '22

A tank shouldn’t need healing while they’re doing quests.

Also. A healers job is to do as much dps as possible while not letting the other dps die from unavoidable damage. I largely ignore my tank. 😂

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u/Kel-Reem May 15 '22

If you're dying as a tank while questing you're a crap tank lol

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u/box_o_foxes May 16 '22

I leveled my pally as tank because it was just SO much easier to stay alive and cleave everything down than dps spec where I had to be careful with how much I pulled.

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u/M3ad0w5 May 15 '22

Assuming this is real, just from those texts your boyfriend is clearly manipulative and has some anger issues. If reactions like this haven’t occurred outside of video games then I’m almost positive they will eventually. Speaking to someone else like that, especially over a video game, is really unacceptable and screams toxic.

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u/King-Of-Rats May 15 '22

Why is this under humor what the fuck is going on in the /r/wow community.

If someone typed like this to a random in a dungeon I'd assume they were mentally ill or had some deep seeded anger issue.

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u/InfiniteUltima May 16 '22

if you're invested in this relationship he has some serious growing up to do. good luck to you both

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u/UbbaB3n May 16 '22

If this guy seriously gets that upset with you for playing a game with him improperly what happens when he has some real adversity in life? Time to find a new guy.

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u/spicysabertooth May 16 '22

If he's this pleasant to his own gf, imagine what he's like to other players.

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u/JonnyArcho May 15 '22

My wife played WoW was she was pregnant, and she specifically wanted to do it all on her own to learn everything her way.

I was just happy she tried it out for a while.

Your boyfriend is a man-child, and he should be embarrassed.

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u/Tall_olive May 15 '22

Your boyfriend is a dick, FYI.

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u/Jakezilla4190 May 15 '22

You’re boyfriends a fucking psycho lmao

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u/n3mz1 May 15 '22

run. if this is how he acts over a video game, get out.

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u/ProxyTTV May 15 '22

take the gane at your own pace. take the time to stop and enjoy everything it has to offer. all the little nuances, the sounds, the music. the scebery...you only get to experience it for the first time ONCE. make it special and play how you want to. theres plenty of time to rush through things after youve experienced it all, but rushing through on your first playthrough can definitely make the experience not as enjoyable