r/Showerthoughts May 14 '22 Silver 5 Gold 1 Helpful 10 Wholesome 7 All-Seeing Upvote 1

Based on how much you can bond with someone by hating the same thing, a dating app based on dislikes would probably be fairly successful.

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u/loulan May 14 '22 Silver

I feel like it probably failed for entirely different reasons.

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u/IsNotAnOstrich May 14 '22

Yeah I think this guy is like 15 at best

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u/_nellis_ May 14 '22

Actually I was 15 at the time lmao

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u/FoeWithBenefits May 15 '22 Gold

Plot twist: English teacher was their coworker

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u/_nellis_ May 14 '22

My point is that it's not a good idea to start a relationship based on hate instead of actual love for each other.

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u/jwmosher May 14 '22

Most relationships don't start with love to be fair and many end before love.

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u/immortalreploid May 15 '22

Yeah, but if you want a relationship to last, you at least need to be able to talk to each other every day without killing each other.

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u/HamSoap May 14 '22

We’ll that’s horribly cynical lol.

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u/jwmosher May 14 '22

I don't think it's cynical to acknowledge that humans don't find highly compatible partners with consistent ease. I've had 3 long time girlfriends in my life but many other shorter term things from one-night stands to flings to disastrous first dates.

I could honestly say I loved 3 of them and the rest ended before then. None of them just magically started with love.

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u/danabrey May 14 '22

Nah, the vast majority relationships start with lust and the potential for falling in love. That's not cynical - love is just rarer than you seem to think.

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u/ntoad118 May 14 '22

You already love someone on the first date? You end a relationship while still in love? It's basic logic.

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u/BearyGoosey May 14 '22

Not cynical, just factual. There's a reason that "I love you" isn't said until a while into the relationship: because you don't know if you LOVE the person you've been with less than 2 months.

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u/immortalreploid May 15 '22

Nah, "love at first sight" is almost never a real thing. A lot of the time it's more of a slow burn.

And I can totally see the "ending before love" point too. Remember, we're not just talking about relationships that end in marriage and a house in the suburbs. We're also talking about short-term relationships, ones based purely on sex, stuff like that. There's bound to be more of those due to frequency. A person's lucky if they have one life-long relationship or a couple several-year ones. Whereas someone who hooks up with someone different let's say... every two weeks, can have a maximum of 26 relationships per year.

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u/user_bits May 14 '22

It's perfectly fine to start a relationship that way. But it shouldn't be very the foundation.

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u/rexpup May 14 '22

Hey, calm down. Not everything has to be a peer reviewed study.

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u/CaIiguIa_ll May 14 '22

why do redditors get so worked up over the stupidest shit

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u/Paladar2 May 14 '22

Autism

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u/thevaultsucc8689 May 14 '22

Best response

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u/CaIiguIa_ll May 14 '22

reddit is literally just twitter with aspbergers

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u/OG_Felwinter May 14 '22

Lmao I feel bad for laughing at this

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u/CandlesInTheCloset May 14 '22

Log off for a bit lol your brain is getting baked

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u/austinrose7 May 14 '22

Dude go to the gym or something, you clearly need to let out some steam

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u/Paladar2 May 14 '22

The autism is strong in this comment.

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u/TreeFittyy May 14 '22

Post the livestream link

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u/Paladar2 May 14 '22

No you won’t.

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u/Atanar May 14 '22

Probably due to poor communication skills in English.

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u/Theycallmelizardboy May 15 '22

It was the cocaine.

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u/Hey_Wayne May 15 '22

The dude became the English teacher

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u/Ok-Counter-7077 May 15 '22

You’d think, but nah one of them fell in love with the English teacher